Originally Posted by
ironyusa
Early in my career, I was a total asshole. I was so worried about position and the prestige that I let it go to my head. Straight out of college I had 130+ employees under me. I think it was having kids that really started my paradigm shift. I realized that I don't have to "put people in their place" because if I empower others, sucess will have a common denominator. I took a lot of emotional intelligence training and have really learned a lot of powerful redirection techniques. Also, basic communication structure programs us to believe that questions need/ deserve an answer and it's not the case. I worked for a Bosnian lady that dealt with sexism constantly and I learned so much from watching how she maintained her composure when people were being total shitheads to her. I guess, the cliffs version is that not every question warrants an answer and many times you can steer the conversation using the questions of others if you're confident in your knowledge.