increasingly that is exactly what happens.
which, is sad on several levels, and easier on several levels. its sad because several of my coworkers are pretty trapped and unhappy in relationships that i get why they are stuck and why they can't break out (and im not claiming to tell them to get divorced either). but they don't want to listen. nothing i can say can help them. and its funny, when we go out to lunch say in mixed generational company, my coworker who is my age will say something about his upcoming wedding or something, and all the boomer guys will calmour to predict or comment on this total strangers motivations, what she wants, what she needs, what will happen (not if, will happen) .... and my co worker and i will just look at each other and share a "oh shit, they are assuming they know everything about everyone again" look. before of course transitioning to the boomers complaining about there own marriages. to which none of us (even the married millennials) can sympathize because none of us trapped ourselves in shit relationships and refuse to do anything about them for decades. seriousnessly, i can only take a decade of "my wife is shitty with money" conversations.
but it does at least mean that increasingly the millennial co-workers will just go out and have actually interesting conversations.
idk, the farther i go in life the less and less i feel like listening to authoritarian (mot often time boomer) men. not all women are the same. not all women want the same things. not all women find the same things attractive. not all women want to live there lives the same. not all women think or feel the same. not all women find the same things frustrating or disappointing or maddening. everyone is different. everyone has different needs and wants.
the one that still gets me, is after a decade, i am still, consistently, told that any woman who doesn't want kids, is lying. all of them. when i say that if that happened, id just leave the relationship, they are super confused.