Originally Posted by
cockerpunk
i mock traditionalism because monogamy is a "role," just the same as any other.
and you'd be wrong about morality, it really just is based on consent. otherwise, what would i be based on?
like most defenders of traditionalism, you seem to see poly as an argument, as something to be debated, as if we all would just agree on some new relationship structure and then boom, its done. people arn't like that. relationships are not like that. poly isn't a response, and different poly structures are not responses to your criticisms, they are in response to people's diversity of needs and wants. no one is trying to convince you to be poly. i certainly am not, and if someone is, you really should question there logic.
I am merely stating that your attacks on poly are, by and large, unfounded. if people want to live some different way to me, or you, or whatever, i don't care. no really i don't, and you shouldn't either. if it makes them happy and it doesn't hurt anyone, i don't care. there are pros and cons to any relationship structure, certainly there are many to traditionalism too. so what?
any argument you make based on some static, fixed, model is simply not going to work for everyone. you'd be a fool to even consider it. one size does not fit all.
I just wonder if i can compromise my own needs with her needs. thats why i brought it up. i don't know, i will have to talk with her more. I am also interested in why she feels strongly about being poly, i have my suspicions but until we talk more i won't go into that.