Wrong again, Gordon. I was a psychology major and took several semesters of courses on similar topics, I helped my wife with her child development courses (she's a teacher) and have been reading texts in the domain for over a decade. So yeah, I'm a married white guy who knows more than you. You trying to mock my normal, monogamous relationship to hide your insecurities about whatever you have doesn't hurt my feelings either. Even Esther Perel's, whom you linked earlier, works are at odds with much of your basic premise. If you're happy, then I'm sincerely glad for you. I just don't believe you've offered anything compelling that suggests it's better in any way. At either rate, I think we also agree that it's an impasse so there nothing else to say.